books, promoting, publishing, writing

Self-Promotion: My Personal Feelings

I’ve been hearing about all the challenges of self-promoting your own book, and how you really need to sell yourself as well as your book.

I’m a 46 year old independent woman whom raised three children by herself. I am used to promoting others, whilst sacrificing just about everything that remotely had to do with “self”. Now that my children are grown I can focus on me, myself, and I. That’s a hard pill to swallow on most days.

I was raised to believe that “children are to be seen, and not heard.” Therefore my feelings usually stayed within, not vocalized, or else I would get the belt for talking back. I got stuck in that rut; even when I was raising my children I wanted to keep my feelings to myself. My positive feelings were an open book and I shared them freely, but my pains, ills and stresses I kept quiet about. I tried not to even cry in front of my children, I would retreat to my bedroom and cry in private. My innermost feelings were only shared with a remote few. Now that I have entered the realm of writing, publishing, and self-promoting I find that I need to reinvent myself.

This blog is my first steps at self-promoting and creating a new voice that has been lost for my entire lifetime. I am ME, hear me ROAR!


16 thoughts on “Self-Promotion: My Personal Feelings

  1. Thank you for sharing the other side of “seen and not heard,” the side that says our feelings were not important enough to be heard, at least not the negative ones. I am writing a memoir which requires a lot of feelings and thoughts. I struggle to find my feelings, let alone express them. It’s so much easier to just tell the story. We’ll get there. Thank you for sharing this post with me.

    Liked by 1 person

  2. bjsscribbles says:

    Thank you for finding and following my blog, I struggled with my feelings for many years, now I write them away. One day I may put it altogether, I am not sure. I will follow in return.

    Liked by 1 person

  3. You’re welcome, and I do believe that writing your feelings down helps a great deal. My favorite teacher told me that when my parents were going through a divorce. It did help me back then. I wrote a lot of poetry.

    Liked by 1 person

  4. Hooray! Thank you for your interaction with my blog. I also struggled with the notion of self promotion. Self publishing requires loads of self promotion, something that didn’t come easy to me unlike words. I published an anthology of poems that best reflected my state of mind. I am continually finding ways to get more of me out there without attempting being a pseudo celebrity. My book is called Back From The Dead: The Rising of an African Spirit.


  5. Alethea Eason says:

    You have a real author-sounding name. Good luck. I’m all over the place with self promotion and trying to find readers. Basically, finding that the writing is the important piece.


Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s